|Photo by Gordon LewisFavours by Odds & BudsPhoto by Photofinish-ukLulworth Castle||Whether it’s a small buffet for a few close family and friends or a lavish do at the smartest of venues, your reception is the big celebration of your wedding – a chance for people to share your happiness and an opportunity for you to thank them for their presents and for coming to see you married.
As this is likely to be the most expensive part of your wedding day, it’s important to set the standard early on in your planning. Popular venues get booked up well in advance, particularly on Saturdays during the peak wedding months, so make sure of your choice by booking as early as you can. Do also make sure you confirm all the details with the venue in writing, paying particular attention to what is included in the price.
Depending on your budget, you can have anything from a buffet catered for at home by family and friends to hiring outside caterers for a church or village hall to a formal sit-down meal at a hotel followed by an evening dance.
A sit-down meal is obviously the most expensive option, but there are all sorts of alternatives, from drinks and canapés to a buffet or even a barbecue. Whichever you choose, do make sure there are plenty of chairs for people to sit down while they’re eating – standing up balancing a drink and a plate while trying to eat is virtually never comfortable for guests.
If you choose a hotel, do try to eat there and sample the food before making your booking. Check such details as corkage, parking space and whether the hotel will offer a cake stand and knife and a room for the bride and groom to change into their going away outfits. Many hotels offer a package which includes the services of a toastmaster and a complimentary room for the first night of the honeymoon.
There can be a long break between ceremony and reception while photographs are being taken and some couples are now offering a glass of sherry outside the church and perhaps live music to entertain guests as they arrive at the reception.
If you are having a sit-down meal, it is essential to have a seating plan. Try to put together tables of people who you think will get on well together.
Don’t feel hidebound by what you think a traditional wedding breakfast should consist of – nowadays anything goes, from bangers and mash and jam roly-poly to pasta with wedding cake for dessert. It’s worth remembering you may need to cater for vegetarians or guests on special diets.
Do give considerable thought to the room and table decorations and the lighting at your reception.
Flowers should match the theme colours of the wedding and a little money spent on atmospheric lighting can make an enormous difference.
Favours for guests range from the traditional small baskets of sugared almonds to fortune cookies, candles or little books of love poems.
If you are having a number of small children at your wedding, it’s worth giving some thought as to whether you can organise a crèche – both to stop the youngest getting bored and to give their parents a chance to enjoy themselves without worrying about what their offspring are up to.
Whatever the size of your reception, it’s always nice to have a formal or semi-formal receiving line to welcome your guests. This ensures that you get the chance to speak to everybody and accept their congratulations.