If the bride is the queen of the day, then the best man is the kingpin who works behind the scenes ensuring everything is going to plan and dealing with any minor problems without bothering the happy couple.
SO CHOOSE YOUR BEST MAN WITH CARE.
However tempting it might be to choose the joker who’s the life and soul of every party, you’re far better off with someone who will take his responsibilities seriously, keep all the organisation under control and leave you to enjoy your day without any niggling worries about how many guests have been stranded at the church.
The part that worries most best men is the speech – but that should be the least of their problems. The best man’s job, in a nutshell, is to support the groom both in the run-up to the wedding and on the day itself.
Take the groom’s going away clothes to the reception venue
Check the service sheets are delivered to the church for the ushers to hand out to guests as they arrive.
Make sure the groom arrives for the ceremony in good time.
Pay all the church fees on the grooms behalf before the ceremony.
Hold the ring(s) until the appropriate moment in the ceremony when they should be handed to the groom or the minister.
Sign the register as a witness to the marriage.
Get the bridal party together for photographs.
Make sure the ushers arrange lifts to the reception for any guests who need them.
Escort the bride and groom to the bridal car and then escort the bridesmaids to the reception.
Liaise with the toastmaster or, if there isn’t one, assume those duties himself – these include announcing the speeches and the cutting of the cake.
Reply to the groom’s toast the the bridesmaids with a brief, polite and – if possible – funny speech before reading out the cards and messages.
Announce the newlyweds’ departure from the reception and ensure they have all their tickets and luggage.
Arrange for any wedding presents taken to the reception to be taken home.
Take the groom’s wedding clothes from the reception and, if necessary, return hired suits.
The bride’s equivalent of a best man also needs to be chosen with care as it is she who will support the bride in the run-up to the ceremony and on the day itself. Though her duties aren’t as onerous as those of her male equivalent, they’re every bit as important in ensuring the bride has a worry-free day.
The chief bridesmaid
Arranges the hen night and makes sure the bride gets home safely.
Arranges for the bride’s going away outfit and honeymoon luggage to be taken to the reception venue.
Helps the bride to dress for the ceremony.
Makes sure the flowers and bouquets have arrived on schedule.
Supervises the other bridesmaids and attendants and assembles them at the church ready for the arrival of the bride.
Arranges the bride’s dress and veil before the procession down the aisle.
Takes the bride’s bouquet at the start of the wedding service and carries it to the vestry ready to give back to the bride after the signing of the register.
Keeps an eye on young attendants during the reception.
Helps the bride change from her wedding dress into her going away outfit.
Arranges for the wedding dress to be returned home.